Co-Parenting

Whether you are divorced, separated, living alone or single with a co-parent you have to share your children’s time with, agreeing arrangements can be challenging 

Reaching Agreement

If you can communicate with your ex-partner about what arrangements can be made; think about the boundaries around, presents, bedtime, pocket money, diet etc. What works best for your children? You as their parents are the experts in knowing what they need.

 Leave other issues aside if possible, and work on what the children need.

Putting your children first

It’s important to talk to your children at a level they can understand about what they want and what will be happening, while managing their expectations.

If you make an agreement, use your usual means of communication to clarify what’s agreed- It can be helpful to put this in writing via email or text to avoid any misunderstandings. Try to put your children’s needs first and avoid using children as go-betweens.

Don’t forget extended family.

If possible include the children’s extended family. Let them know what has been agreed and ask them to support you both as co-parents in making this the best possible time for the children.

Attitude is everything.

Your children will take their cue from you, if you are positive about the arrangements your children will be too.

It might feel like a difficult time for you but what your children need is to feel safe and loved and to have time with both parents 

Remember children are resilient they can cope if they feel you are!

We can help

If you wish to meet with one of our family mediators - together to agree the plans. We are ready to help you.

28th January 2025